Do boundaries really exist in situation-ships?

Situationships have become the new norm among most millennials, urban dictionary defines the term as “a relationship that has no label on it…like a friendship, but more than a friendship, but not quite a relationship.” Basically those shaky platonic relationships that go on for months , years for some without an official title but both parties engage in boyfriend/girlfriend behavior.

This type of arrangement works out for some but for others this relationship format can eventually become a recipe for disaster. It gives people a false sense of hope that eventually their situation will be official so they stick around waiting for that day to come sadly for some it never does. 

Most times the "what are we" conversation is brought up too late when one person has already become comfortable with the situationship and other times the conversation is avoided completely because the people involved don't want the responsibilities that come with a boyfriend/girlfriend. It could also be both parties have mutual feelings but are scared of chasing their partner away so the conversation never arises.

In these situationships you may also start to wonder if it's okay to date other people , speaking from personal experience I used to do this often being faithful during the "talking" stage or not seeing anyone outside of my situationship looking back on it that was a really foolish decision for multiple reasons but the most important I wasn't officially anyone's girlfriend. 

There's so many downsides to situationships that definitely outweigh the positives if any there's 0 accountability for either party involved, they have the ability to ghost you going ghost is much easier when there's no official title in place so the person may feel like they're justified in doing so. You start to get mad about certain things your unofficial partner is doing or not doing and they quickly remind you "we not even together" now your tight and in all the way in your feelings because you know it's true sis.

 Ultimately these kind of arrangements are not worth anyone’s time or sanity because if things end on a sour note you'll feel like you got played and wasted your time on someone who you were just “talking to” or “messing with.”

Personally, I don't believe you can have a situationship with boundaries in place it rarely works out without one of the people involved crossing boundaries logically it doesn't make sense to be in a situationship and have boundaries if you're going to do all of that just be with that person. 

Please share thoughts below. 

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